Relationship Anxiety : While it can be normal to feel anxious or anxious in a relationship, it is not always a bad sign. Sometimes we have a reason for restlessness, and having that feeling can be a signal for us to tell that something is not right. But when this feeling reaches an unhealthy level, relationship anxiety can actually work against us, and make us believe in problems that are not really there.
UK newspaper Metro’s Report According to Neil Wilkie, a psychotherapist specializing in relationships, ‘Relationship anxiety is very common during all stages of a relationship.’ Explaining that relationships have their ups and downs over the course of time, he says that the pandemic has ‘increased fear and uncertainty – our stress levels have increased as a result. Remember we cannot change the past, but we can change how we can influence it in the future.
Neil shares some thoughts of his clients who have experienced relationship anxiety, so you too know how to deal with it.
‘He doesn’t love me’
Neil says that to deal with such thoughts, you should ask yourself, what evidence do you have for this? Has he (your partner) changed the way he treats you? Neil advises, ‘The best way to deal with anxiety about this is to take the time to have an open and honest discussion about how you’re feeling, and to decide on a place to sit down and talk.
‘I’m not good enough’
Low self-esteem can affect how you see yourself in a relationship. Neil explains that to keep yourself away from anxiety, you should consider whether they suddenly got a lot better or you got worse? Its probability is negligible. That’s why it’s important to feel worthy within yourself regardless of anyone else.
‘I don’t matter to them’
Neil says how secure are you feeling in the relationship and what could be the reason for this sudden change? ‘Is this something they told you directly or are you planning to read them?’ He advises not to do anything like this, as it does not come with facts. Neil says: ‘They might have a lot of pressure on them and you’ve fallen off their priority list, not just because you don’t matter to them. Ask them specifically what you need and see how they respond,’
‘We are separating’
Neil says this can happen in relationships when couples get distracted from life and forget to invest time and energy in nurturing the relationship. Discuss with your partner how you are feeling about the relationship and what do you want to be different? Then ask your partner to express their feelings. Listen to each other without interruption and see what they have in common. Then agree on what you are going to do to make things better.
‘something is not right’
Your inner feelings are telling you that there is something wrong with the relationship, but you can’t keep your finger where the problem is. It is important to trust your instincts and find out the reality. Neil says, ‘Talk to your partner about how you are feeling and see if they are feeling the same way. He suggests that you give yourself a rating out of 10 on how you are feeling on the following key pillars of a relationship. Communication, connection, commitment, fun, growth and trust. Compare your scores and talk about where changes are needed.